How to become more feminine

Walk slow

Yes, walk slow. Why are you rushing? Now, unless you have somewhere to go where you cannot be late, that's alright. But something as simple as slowing down while walking does something to your confidence. Walk and observe.
A thing I recommend doing as well is to walk with no headphones. This step is not always necessary, but it’s calming from time to time. Just walking, being present, and observing what’s around you is detoxing.

Being a morning person

I would never be the person pushing someone and say that "the only way to be healthy is to wake up early." Don’t force it. The more you force it, the more you’re going to hate it. It will come by itself when you start caring about your well-being. I noticed this about myself: I go to bed before 10:30 and usually wake up at 6. I enjoy it. Why? Because to me, sunrise is sacred, and so is sunset. There's something so beautiful about sitting and observing. Getting sunlight as soon as you wake up is a proven way to get serotonin in your system. Going on a walk does that too.

It's easy to stick to this in summer, but demotivating in winter because the sun rises only after 7–8 a.m., which breaks my heart. But we can do something about it. Just stimulating a yellow-ish light when it’s dark in the morning is enough to make you feel a bit awake and energized.

Now, I am a huge hater of those big white ceiling lights. Your environment absolutely controls a huge part of your mood and well-being. Do you expect to feel at ease when your room has this huge white hospital light on? It personally makes me feel sick. Investing in good lighting is crucial, I cannot stress it enough, and I mean it. I even avoid going to places that some of my friends like just because of the lighting there.

Take a day or two for yourself

For me, I always have my Saturdays and Sundays fully unplanned, where I just go with the flow. I do not think. Give yourself breaks every now and then. It doesn’t have to be the weekend; it could be a Monday evening or whenever you have free time. But be intentional with it. Pursue your hobby, or try to find one if you don’t have it.

We underestimate how much time there actually is that we could spend on hobbies. You can try three different things in a week and see what brings you joy: painting, sewing, singing, whatever it is. It's important for you to nourish yourself by doing something that brings you joy. At the end of the day, you cannot nourish, glow, and show good energy if you don’t feed it to yourself. You cannot love others fairly if you don’t start by loving yourself, you simply can’t.

But when you love yourself so much (in a healthy way, of course, I’m not saying be a narcissist), only then can you take the overflow and give it to others.
When you’re in a big mess and complaining all the time, this will show on your face, your energy, and your vibe, and people will notice it from a mile away. Stop that. Complaining too much makes you less attractive. Stop the negative energy.

Should you really cut negative people off?

Tough topic. Each situation is different, but here’s what I would tell you: cutting someone off works best if they are an ex of yours. But when it comes to friends, it’s different. I’m not a fan of cutting friendships off, but I’m a big fan of setting strong boundaries. Don’t cut them off, just take a step back and set a boundary. If a boundary is that strong, then the friend has no other choice but to either respect that boundary or they will take a step back gradually by themselves. Without having a talk about it, it just naturally happens and it might fade off by itself.

But how do we actually set a boundary? Let me give you an example:

Your friend does not accept a "no" from you. They push you until you say yes, and they do that because your "no" and the way you said it was probably soft. Yeah, we don’t want that. Make your "no" firm and confident. No means no. “I said no, please stop asking.” Add a “hahaha” at the end if you think it’s rude, but keep your no as firm as it could be!

If your friend is the type to complain or gossip a lot about other people, stop them. Say, “Hey, please no, it really makes me feel uneasy. Let’s talk about something else.” Be firm with your opinion. You did not have it for no reason. And it will take a while, but we need to be okay with others not understanding our opinions, disagreeing with them, or even misunderstanding them. What you want to do is protect your peace so you can glow with your femininity.