Discipline as Self-Love

Why Keeping Promises to Yourself Matters

Like I mentioned in my other blog, discipline is a trait that can be practiced and a part of the brain that can be strengthened. It’s like training a muscle; the more you train it, the stronger it gets (even though with training muscles you have to give them enough rest, but that’s not what we’re talking about here).

• The biggest discipline, about whatever goal it might be, comes from massive self-respect.

• When you agree with other people on a specific hour to a social gathering, you are more likely to stick with it than if you had something that you planned for yourself.

• We can change that, don’t worry.

When you value a routine, you don’t want to break it.
But how do you value your routine or goal, though?
You need to have a reason why you want it in the first place.

• Maybe you’ve thought of wanting to wake up early.

• Why do you want that in the first place?

• Write your reasons down, whether on your notes app, in your notebook, or in the WhatsApp group where you removed everyone so you can write with yourself alone.

Your why has to be a good enough reason for you to want your goal.
If your why is not good enough or is very shallow or superficial, how do you expect to value it enough?

• You can’t say, “I want to wake up early because everyone is doing it.” That is not your why.

• You can’t say, “I want to lose weight in order for my boyfriend to find me more attractive.” That is not your why.

Find your why first. And it might be something that takes a while to find.
We want a worthy why in order to be able to stick to it and remind ourselves each time why our why is worth sticking to.

If you are not convinced with your why, maybe it’s time to question whether the goal you want to pursue is actually worth pursuing.
If your reason to lose weight is only to do it right before summer, then question your why, or your goal, again.

We want something that’s high-value.
A high-value goal is a consistent long-term goal.
Of course, there are other factors too, but that’s just one of the main ones.

Be Intentional With Your Time and Actions

Being intentional with your time and your actions has been one of the most empowering choices a woman can make.

• Every decision, how you spend your mornings, who you let into your energy, and which projects you commit to, shapes not only your productivity but also how you feel about yourself.

• When you act with purpose instead of just reacting to life, you honor your priorities and create space for what truly nourishes you.

This kind of mindfulness doesn’t just make your days run smoother; it connects you to your intuition, your inner rhythms, and your authentic desires.

Each intentional choice you make feels like a little act of self-love, a way of saying, “I value myself, my time, and the energy I bring into the world.”

Hidden Link Between Self-Love and Self-Discipline

The more you love yourself, the easier it becomes to be disciplined. It goes hand in hand.

• Self-love isn’t just about softness and self-forgiveness.

• It’s also about accountability, not just responsibility.

• We often confuse these two terms.

Being accountable means being able to own the outcome, not just admit you were the one who did it.
Being responsible is great, but being accountable is greater.

• If you had a child, or maybe you do, you are caring for them, right?

• Why are you? Because you love them.

• You make sure they eat healthy food.

• You make sure they do their homework on time.

• You are soft with them, but you teach them accountability as well, in order for them to grow stronger.

Building Trust Within Yourself

What’s the easiest way to trust another human being? When they show their words in action, not just say the things.

• How do you do that with yourself? Same process: say, then do.

• Don’t go around telling everybody all your plans.

• We don’t want to talk about it, we want to show it without needing to talk.

• People will notice by themselves that your skin got clearer, that you built some muscle, that you became more flexible, that you became happier.

If you feel the need to talk much about your goal, it might be a hidden need for validation from others.
The more you love yourself, the less you’ll need that.

Let me mention again what I said in my other blog, because it’s important and can’t be disregarded:

• We are social creatures; we cannot live without each other, and we need one another to survive.

• A natural byproduct of this is that we do need validation to a certain extent, we do need love to a certain extent.

• We do need someone to tell us, “Hey, I see you. I’m proud of you.” That’s just how life is.

However, the person who should be giving you the biggest validation is your own self.